I have a valuable voice in my life that historically has not spoken words of life to me. Due to their own personal pain, their own unforgiveness and disappointment with life, they have used me as their verbal punching bag for years and I allowed it. Thanks to godly women I have around me, who advise me in life and call me up higher, the end of last year, I made it crystal clear to this person I was not going to listen to their negative voice any longer. The person was shocked, as I had never drawn this type of boundary with them before, of which there are many reasons for this. Notwithstanding, I was loving but firm, I will no longer allow their poisonous words in my life.
Months of silence went by, as this person is older than me and very important to me, but I knew if I did not stop it now, it would never stop and honestly I should have stopped it many many years ago, but this voice was familiar to me and so I would continue to listen to it. Today, not only do this voice and I have a healthy relationship, we have agreed to only build one another up, no more tearing each other down. We have so much fun together now, we share our hearts with each other, it is the relationship I have always wanted with this person, but never knew how to get. Many manifestations are coming out of this relationship now, but it started with a zero tolerance of the negative, toxic words, and a commitment to only build together.
I tell you this story, because the enemy is a toxic voice in our lives. He is a destroyer and not a builder. He destroys others in our mind, he tears us down in the minds of others, his voice is never going to build or speak like God to us, never. He can’t, he won’t, no matter the boundary you set with him, the enemy, the devil will never change. Therefore, we have to literally but off his voice in our lives by not giving him an ear about anything. He cannot have a glance in his direction, a wink, a nothing, no attention can be given to him, for he has no ability to build, he can only destroy. We are long overdue as believers, from shutting down once and for all the voice of the enemy in our lives. You can’t stop him from talking, but you can stop listening, stop obeying, stop agreeing with him and stop echoing what he is saying.
Ephesians 4:29-32 “Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear. Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.”












