Loving people, pulling the gold out of them and building them up not tearing them down is what we are called to do as believers in Jesus Christ. The Bible says “A bruised reed he will not crush, a smoldering wick he will not put out.” (Matthew 12:20). Jesus was a people builder. Everywhere He went He was raising the dead, casting out demons, healing the sick, giving recovery of sight to the blind, teaching the truth about the gospel of the kingdom, rebuking the devil and training the people of God to do the work of the ministry.

Jesus modeled what loving people looked like. He let women sit at His feet. He called fishermen, tax collectors and bible scholars to follow Him. He went to people’s home and ate meals. He taught in synagogues. He sat in boats and on mountain tops in order to liberate captive people. He would pray at night while others were sleeping and He would fast while others were eating. Jesus loved His Father and He loved people.

Insecure people manifest arrogance because they think so lowly of themselves, so they have to think more highly of themselves. Romans 12:3 says, “For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you.” When you see arrogance you are actually seeing insecurity.

Insecurity comes from being criticized and tore down in the formative and consecutive years, rather than being built up. Tearing down arrogance is not how we handle insecure people, building them up is how we handle them. Confident people are humble people, because they know who they are internally. They have been built inside strong.

When you meet people, listen to what they say, so you can either reinforce their confidence with words of life or build them ancient ruins others tore down with words of life. We are an Ephesians 4:29 people, “And never let ugly or hateful words come from your mouth, but instead let your words become beautiful gifts that encourage others; do this by speaking words of grace to help them.” We are builders of people!